Time to take a trip :3
Young women are having difficulty accessing tubal ligation, despite it being a relatively safe (death rate is 1-2 per 100,000) and elective surgery.
There is a waiting period of 30 days for women seeking tubal ligation, yet no waiting period for men seeking vasectomies.
Young women are often discriminated against when seeking sterilization. Many doctors ask offensive questions (“What if you met a billionaire who wanted to have kids with you?”), state categorically that their patients are too young to consider the surgery, and generally act as though, as one woman who tried unsuccessfully to be sterilized at the age of 21 in the U.K. put it, ”just because I was a woman, I’d reach a point where an urge to breed would overcome all rational thought.” (Perhaps unsurprisingly, that woman’s 25-year-old husband faced no such presumptions when he asked his doctor for a vasectomy. The procedure was quickly approved.)
Say that at 18 I slap down enough money so I could have my whole body covered head-to-toe in tattoos, piercings all over myself, a mountain of cigarettes, plastic surgery, and plan to have like 20 babies… but if I try at all to safely make it impossible for me to breed for the sake of my health suddenly its like WOAH THERE SLOW DOWN MISSY YOU’RE NOT READY FOR THIS KIND OF COMMITMENT YET
I have stage III Endometriosis, which means I have to get my uterus removed because I literally have terrible cramps ALL THE TIME and not just when I’m on my period. Now, I’ve always said I don’t want any children for personal reasons and I don’t need my uterus, really. I am not worried about that surgery and I don’t feel any kind of nostalgia over an organ I won’t ever use.
The thing is, my doctor is a ‘man’. This ‘man’ told me I had to get pregnant right now before it’s too late. I told him I didn’t want to get pregnant and explained the multiple reasons but what, do you ask, did my doctor have to say about this? 'Well, better have a kid now because just imagine how depressing it must be being a thirty-something woman without children and a husband?'
I was diagnosed a year ago. I should have gone through surgery six months ago and I still can’t find a doctor that will perform the surgery without trying to force me to have children first. Basically, if you’re a woman you don’t have a say in what can and cannot be done to your body without a shitload of people getting in the way AND I’M FUCKING SICK OF IT.
Women are getting non-consensually sterilized in prison but no doctors in my area while tie my tubes at 24 because I might regret it? Fuck you, doctors. I have more purpose in life than dropping babies. Some of those women in prison are probably great moms and I have no interest in parenting. Let us have a say!
A dear friend of mine wanted to have her tubes tied. She was about to give birth to twins and the doctors wouldn’t consent because she wasn’t 21 yet. She had already had children and they still refused to let her have the procedure.
My friend got a vasectomy a week after asking his doctor for one, no problem. He was 25.
Me? I’ve asked 4 different doctors for some kind of permanent sterilisation—tubal ligation or Essure or whatever—and I get a pat on the head and a “You’d regret it if you did.”
Oh, DIDN’T REALIZE YOU HAD A DIRECT LINE TO MY BRAIN.
On the flip side, as a vagina-having person who had her tubes tied at the age of 26 (after having 4 children, however):
MY HUSBAND HAD TO SIGN A CONSENT FORM IN ORDER FOR ME TO HAVE THE PROCEDURE DONE.
How many times have we heard stories about husbands having vasectomies behind their wives backs and never telling them, letting those wives wallow in guilt and misery, thinking it’s their fault that they can’t get pregnant?
And yet I had had to get my husband’s permission to have my tubes tied.
(Obviously this was a decision we’d talked about extensively beforehand, so it’s not like he was about to say no, but we both couldn’t believe the fucking audacity of the hospital, asking HIS permission for ME to do something with MY body. In fact, he said as much to the nurse that brought in the forms.)
This is fucked up. Your body is no one’s business but your own. Even if there’s no law against young sterilization, women still suffer just from societal expectations, which influence doctors who are unable to be objective. People think they’re being caring but are actually just afraid of anything that goes outside of their preconceived notions of what people should do with their lives.
but why, IF YOU GET YOUR TUBES TIED, YOU CAN GET THEM UNTIED, MY MOM DID IT.
On the sad and infuriating flipside to this? I’m a nonchristian lesbian with a diagnosed autism spectrum disorder and an anxiety disorder in “the south”, and I’ve had doctors that knew my history insinuate that I SHOULD have my tubes tied, because they’re “not sure that I would be the most fit mother” or that “I might not be able to understand how to properly raise a child”.
…Oh I’m sorry, I didn’t realize I was a fucking retard. Let me babble and drool on you AFTER I SET YOUR LIFELESS BODY ON FIRE SINCE I AM APPARENTLY INCAPABLE OF MAKING SAFE, SANE DECISIONS ACCORDING TO YOU.
I don’t even want children- I just seethe at the thought of someone seriously insinuating that I am beyond making rational choices to the point that one doctor spent twenty minutes trying to convince me, a physically healthy 26 year old woman, to ‘voluntarily sterilize’ myself. Voluntarily Sterilize. Those are the words he used- like I was some sort of goddamn cat at the vet.
Welcome to AMURCA!!!!!!!!!!!!
Dinner: omelette with sea salt, basil, sage, and fresh scape.
My girlfriend exists perpetually in this state. It’s a very delicate affair.
I feel like this is what the internet’s ultimate purpose is. owo
heheheh its me in cat form yay :3c
and suddenly I have a new icon!
This is the MOST IMPORTANT THING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Costco doesnt fuck around
At least one person in the USA has eaten that entire bag of cheetos in one shameful sitting. USA USA USA- *has heart attack, dies*
OKAY SIT DOWN SHUT UP, WE’RE GONNA TALK COLORS
THIS IS SAPPHIRE
THIS IS TEAL
THIS IS PERIWINKLE
THIS IS AZURE
AND THIS IS TURQUOISE
WONDER WHY THOSE ALL DON’T LOOK LIKE THE SAME COLOR? BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT
OTHER THAN BEING PART OF THE SAME FAMILY OF BLUES, THEY ARE NOT ALL THE SAME FUCKING COLOR! WHY WOULD THEY ALL BE THE SAME FUCKING COLOR! DO YOU THINK WE JUST NAME NEW COLORS FOR KICKS!?!?!?
WHEN DESCRIBING A CHARACTER’S GOD FORSAKEN EYE COLOR, PICK ONE YA GODDAMN HIPPIE
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GUYS THIS IS REALLY IMPORTANT
THE SCIENCE OF SURVIVAL!!!!!
this is still my favourite thing EVER
This reminds me of a friend of mine. :3
Made this for my lovely waifu mightygods! Our new religion is papa Thor and daddy Loki living among the humans raising their baby. Ahh! Don’t look at me! ( >///<)~ I gone gave myself the diabetes… bye now
Found a huge snail! Noot Noot! Time for your glamour shot!
Why shower separately when you can wash each other together in a bath? Steve and Bucky are just so happy to have each other again that they don’t want to spend time without the other if at all possible.
Been a while since I uploaded some art… I have far too many WIPs that are going nowhere, so I decided to just paint some fluffy bath times, because that’s what I felt like painting. I think these two love looking after each other and the tubs in Stark Tower should all be ridiculously large, right? ;)